October is the Domestic Violene Awareness Month!
Check Facebook each day for a message from our founder, Kenneth Thompson and come to the page to make a donation to assist in our efforts to prevent our children from growing up to become domestic violence victims or abusers.
Stand up for yourself. If the abuse is just starting, tell the abuser his/her behavior is unacceptable and will not be tolerated. Talk to someone you trust about what you are going through. BE CAREFUL. If the abuse is ongoing and the abuser is always getting his/her way, you may risk more abuse if you stand up for yourself. If you’re afraid this might happen, try to get help from a friend or adult before you stand up for yourself. Don’t try it when you are by yourself with the abuser and be prepared to leave in order to escape the abuser. Remember that the ABUSE IN NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!
Don’t be ashamed to tell someone about the abuse. It’s not your fault, it’s the abuser’s problem. Encourage him/her to get help. Hurting yourself won’t help the situation. It’s human to feel down when you’re being abused. Some people who are being abused feel like suicide is the answer. If you are feeling this way, it may be becasue you feel the abuser is right about you with his/her negative remarks. Use that negative energy to take care of yourself. There are many options and steps you can take to make things easier for yourself. Compliment yourself for everything you do well and have faith. If you are still feeling suicidal, it may help to talk about your feelings by calling the 24- hour HOPE LINE at 1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433).
Make someone aware of the abuse. Talking to someone about the abuse can be very helpful. Taking advice from a friend or a caring adult can also be helpful. Be cautious about turning to alcohol and drugs. Some people use alcohol and drugs to deal with stress or pain. Unfortunately, it keeps you drained, feeling helpless, and will affect your decision-making. Try to drink in moderation or avoid substances altogether. Relax and play. Relieving stress can help improve your ability to communicate and make decisions. Physical activity and exercise will increase your well-being. Try to include friends and family in your activities. Try to eat a proper diet. They way you take care of your body affects the way you feel as well as your ability to cope and manage stress. Handle your finances wisely and improve your employment skills. Having money stored for emergencies can make you feel more secure. Employment skills will make you independent. If you are having problems with employment, volunteer to gain exposure to people and improve your skills.
Know your local resources. Learn about your local information lines (211, 411, 911, etc). If it is a domestic violence situation, contact The National Domestic Violence Hot Line 24 hours a day at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), 1-800-787-3224 (TTY).
Take care of yourself. You are strong and you know what you can do to succeed.
WHEN YOU ARE READY TO STOP THE VIOLENT CYCLE YOU ARE IN, KNOW HELP IS THERE!!